Wet and Messy Fetish

A wet and messy fetish (WAM) is a form of sexual fetishism that has a person getting aroused by substances which are deliberately applied on the body like mud, shaving foam, custard pudding, chocolate sauce, squirty cream, jelly and the likes.

Messy and wet substances can include whipped cream, mud, shaving foam, custard, pudding, chocolate sauce, Japanese-style lotion, paint, oil or gunge/slime, etc. Wet substances are mainly water but can also include other liquids such as fruit juice or milk.

It could also involve wet clothes, or any combination of the above. The arousal occurs when the substance is generously applied to the naked skin, or to the clothes the person is wearing. It also could occur when seeing someone else getting wet and/or messy.

Four Categories of WAM

*Messy - the applying of substances not usually used in this fashion. This may include food, shaving cream and mud. A major subdivison of food play involves striking people with cream pies or cakes in films. This category also includes wrestling in mud, oil or gelatin.

*Wet - The major varieties are of images of people in completely soaked clothing, usually involving full clothing ensembles.

*Quicksand - images of people sinking in quicksand. In drawn images, the stage where female characters sink up to their chests and their breasts are pushed up in response is a favourite.

*Underwater - (Aquaphilia). Involves images of people swimming or posing underwater. Some subsets of this category are underwater fashion (models posing underwater, often while fully clothed), scuba, rubber (people in skin-tight rubber wetsuits), simulated drowning, and underwater sex.

Theories of WAM

*One presented theory is that the feeling of wet and messy substances on the skin is a surrogate for the feeling of touching a partners' skin while having sex.

*Another theory is that getting wet and messy amplifies or exaggerates the feelings of lust. Yet another theory is that seeing another person or yourself getting wet and/or messy is arousing, because it reminds of the natural moistures the body excretes when sexually aroused.

Part of the current awareness of wet and messy fetishism is due to the British fetish magazine Splosh!, which until production recently slowed featured pictures of, and stories about, women in wet and messy situations. This has lead to the word 'Sploshing' being used as a kind of shorthand, especially in mainstream media, for the Wet and Messy fetish. Websites were also created that allow forums and exchange of information showcasing WAM.

Fetishism

Sexual fetishism is the sexual attraction for material and terrestrial objects while in reality the essence of the object is inanimate and sexless. Body parts may also be subject to sexual fetishes in which the preferred body part for the fetishist takes a sexual precedent over the owner. Sexual fetishism may be regarded as a disorder of sexual preference, or as an enhancing element to a relationship. It is the compulsive use of some object, or part of the body, as a stimulus in the course of attaining sexual gratification, as a shoe, a lock of hair, or underclothes. Usually the fetish begins in adolescence and tends to be quite chronic into adult life.

Fetishism is a fixation on an inanimate object or body part that is not primarily sexual in nature, and the compulsive need for its use in order to obtain sexual gratification. The object of a fetish is almost invariably used during masturbation and may also be incorporated into sexual activity with a partner in order to produce sexual excitation. The sexual acts of fetishists are characteristically depersonalized and objectified, even when they involve a partner. The focus of attention is exclusively on the fetish, whereas non-fetishists may at various times make a particular body part or an object part of their general sexual arousal and expression with another person, but not be fixated on it.

Inanimate object fetishes can be categorized into two types:

In a form fetish, it is the object and its shape that are important, such as in the case of high-heeled shoes.

In a media fetish, it is the material out of which the object is made that is important, such as silk or leather. Inanimate object fetishists often collect the object of their favor, and may go to great lengths, including theft, to acquire just the "right" addition for their collection.

Festish Objects

Although the list of objects that fetishists can use for sexual gratification is inexhaustible, among the more common inanimate objects are panties, bras, slips, stockings or panty hose, negligees, shoes, boots and gloves. Common media objects include leather, rubber, silk, or fur.

In some cases drawings or photographs of the fetish object may arouse fetishists, but more commonly the fetishist prefers or requires an object that has already been worn. The worn object does not serve as a symbolic reminder of the former owner, however, because it is the object that the fetishist relates to, not the person attached to it. Sometimes it is a body part, such as hair, feet, legs or buttocks that become fetish objects.

In some cases, the fetishist can become sexually aroused and orgasmic only when the fetish is being used. In other instances, a sexual response may occur without the fetish, but usually at a diminished level. When the fetish object is not present, the fetishist often engineers sexual arousal by fantasizing about it.

Symptoms

*The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

*Over a period of at least 6 months, patients have recurrent, intense, sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving nonliving objects.

*Patients do not limit the fetish objects to articles of female clothing used in cross-dressing or to devices designated for the purpose of tactile genital stimulation.

*Patients may have a particular pathological displacement of erotic interest and satisfaction for their entire lives (not a DSM-IV criterion).

Causes

The causes of fetishism are not clearly understood. Some learning theorists believe that it develops from early childhood experiences, in which an object was associated with a particularly powerful form of sexual arousal or gratification.

Other learning theorists would not focus on early childhood, but on later childhood and adolescence and the conditioning associated with masturbation activity. Researchers have shown that in general fetishists have poorly developed social skills, are quite isolated in their lives and have a diminished capacity for establishing intimacy.